How to: know your worth!

Regina: "But you are really pretty!"

 

Cady: "Thanks"

 

Regina: "So you agree?

 

Cady: "What?"

 

Regina: "You think you're really pretty.

 

Cady: "Oh ... I don't know"

 

 

From the day we were born, society teaches us to shrink ourselves. "Look how beautiful Anna looks!" "Don't eat that much, no man wants a walrus". Often these statements are not meant with the intention of hurting you, but these taunts accumulate especially in the self-discovery phase. You look at yourself in the mirror and  think: "They are right!". And if  anyone dares to brim with self-confidence, he will be stamped as arrogant . But why?

 

 

 

Self-confidence! What's this?

 

Self-confidence consists of two words: self and conscious. My  definition of it is simoly  being aware of yourself. This includes being aware of your positive qualities as well as your negative qualities and accepting them. This in turn means: POWER. A person who is aware of his negative qualities cannot be shaken by anything! You think my butt is too flat? I know, but I have nice boobs . Believe me, afterwards your hater is speechless because which most people have to feel better about themselves and  cover up their own insecurities by putting shade on others. According to this quick-witted argument, they usually let off in shame because they cannot stand the strength of the other.

 

 

 

Knowing can take away your worth !!

 

What do I mean by that? Nobody can take away your self-confidence once you have deeply consolidated!

You don`t like me? Well I think I'm a 10/10!

You really think I'm nice? Thanks, now I know that I am 10/10 and  nice!

No, you shouldn't take that literally, but the examples show that in the first case my self-confidence before and after example 1 is 80%, in example 2 it is 80% + 2%.

 

 

 

Use your mind!

 

Our brains cannot differentiate between a real scenario and a surreal scenario. We see in the Tagesschau that 1,000 people died in a forest fire in Australia and are depressed. Our brain saves: Forest fires are dangerous! Although we have never experienced this in real terms, it makes sense. We see on Instagram how a curvy woman is hated because she's wearing a bikini. That's why we save: Only thin women with flat stomach can afford it! But fear is surreal, if you have self-confidence, the talk can do nothing to you. Stop the Wenns! If I have a flat stomach, I can wear bikinis! When I have lost 5 kg, I will register for the dance class! If, if, if ... your time is now! The only thing that keeps you from your goals is yourself! Yes, but I'm not confident! Everyone was born with self-confidence. Children stretch out their bellies and are happy with their lives. At some point this self-confidence is trampled on, slowly, day after day, without you realizing it. Everyone doubts about themselves, even Beyonce has days when she stands in front of the mirror and has doubts. So what are you waiting for? Fake it till you make it! Do yourself a favor and live a day as if you were a goddess! Live your dreams, wear a bikini, tell your aunt who constantly criticizes your opinion and you will see that you have always been the goddess!

 

 

 

Know your worth and add taxes!

 

Imagine you pick up your friend by car and he gets in and sees the dirt everywhere: empty cans on the floor, candy wrapper everywhere, a ketchup stain on the seat ..... How likely  is he to eat the burger in your car? Now imagine that he would get in and see the clean fitting, the shiny glass pane ... How likely is he now to even  dare to get in with the burger at all? It is the same with your value. Don't sell yourself below your value. Don't make yourself small! If you present your weaknesses to others and say: "I'm too jealous! The other woman is much prettier!" Darling, you invite your boyfriend to trample on you with his feet. However, if you know your value and show it to him, he will also treat you valuable. "You want to cheat on me? Just do that! You won't find someone like me! Who do you think I am? Don't worry, I will find quickly someone better: I have this, this and that ... what can you offer me? " If he's smart, he'll think: man she's right, I won't find someone like her again.